there it goes (acoustic) - maisie peters / fourth of july - fall out boy / bang the doldrums - fall out boy / daisy jones and the six - taylor jenkins reid / writer in the dark - lorde / silver springs - fleetwood mac
i’ve warmed up significantly towards the concept of small talk ever since i learned that its sole purpose is to make friendly noises.
as long as you smile and nod, people are satisfied. it’s just to show that you are nice and there with good intentions. we’re small in a big world and have to rely on other people to be decent to us. so we do our little human dance to each other to say, “i’m not here to hurt you. here’s something we have in common, like the weather or sports or itchy sweaters, so we both know we’re on the same team. we both agree on a basic fact, like that it is rainy or that being itchy is uncomfortable, and this proves we can get along. i’m being light-hearted and non-threatening right now.”
small talk isn’t to get to know a person. it’s just a greeting to affirm you’re buddies in the universe.
i am motivated by wanting the other person to know i am friendly, so i have gotten pretty decent at small talk when i used to hate it.
‘Tis the season! Scaredy Cat is popping up around the internet again. I am amazed that so many people continue to love it after I finished it 4 years ago. Thank you so much! <3
to me the thing about deification is that something fundamental is lost in the process
people can’t be immortal. so in order to be immortal you can’t be a person anymore. you have to be distilled. stripped of everything. till you come out the other side as an abstract concept.
